I remained single for most of my adult life. This was mainly a matter of personal choice, but also because despite having several long-term relationships with some amazing women, I'd never met anyone I wanted to say 'Forever' to.
Well 14 yrs. ago all that changed when I hired a bright young woman to run a hotel owned by the company I headed. We worked together for 2 yrs. until I left the company, no romantic entaglement at all, just co-workers. A year later, I was waiting in DFW in a bar for my plane and out of nowhere, she approached me so we sat for a drink. In catching up, she mentioned that while she enjoyed working for me, it had also been difficult - something I rarely heard from subordinates. I asked why and she replied because she had always had feelings for me. Of course, as luck would have it, at this precise moment, my flight was called. I suggested that we meet in a week when I returned home and continue over dinner. Well, she moved in 3 weeks later and we were married 18 mos. after that and have been happily married for the past 10 yrs.
Anyway, while we were still courting, she learned of my passion for cars. Mostly because I spent so much time in the garage working on one of several classics I own(ed). Well, the first birthday we were together, she got me a lawn chair and a boombox. Slightly confused, I asked her why a boombox and she said that it was for the garage. OK, but that didn't explain the chair. She went on to say that the chair was so that she could come down to the garage, listen to music and read a book while I was working on the cars - that way, we would be spending time together. I believe that was the exact moment I decided to ask for her hand. When I got my '76 '02 3 mos. ago, she decided that the stock steering wheel had to go, so on Xmas morning, there's going to be an NOS coarse splined BMW M-Tech steering wheel waiting for me under the tree!
In the years since, we have attended many functions of the various clubs I belong to: Lotus Club, Healey Club, Porsche Club, etc. and inevitably some of the members' wives will gather in a corner and complain about the time and money their husbands spend on their cars. Brenda, on more than one occaision, will wade through them and ask why they wouldn't want to support their husbands passion? She reminds them that many men are doing things which are much worse. Aside from gambling, drinking, womanizing, Golf, Fantasy Sports, Bowling Leaguers, etc. she'll also include those with $30k Bass Boats who, when it's all said and done, end up paying the price of a nice night out to put a couple bass filets on the table - bass that the wife usually ends up cleaning and cooking. That pretty well shuts them up.
So, here's a shoutout to my lovely bride - Thanks for all your support and understanding!
My one wish is that you guys are just as lucky!
Cheers!